Campaign Story

IVF : A glimpse of hope for us
My wife is Kim and I am Khai. Growing up I have always wanted to build a family together with the love of my life. My wife and I have always dreamt about building a family of our own together.
I came to the United States in 2012, in 2019 I went back to my home country to marry Kim according to the traditions with my parents and relatives. Kim and I have the same culture and tradition since we are a Zomi tribe from Burma.
Since I couldn’t let Kim come back to the United States because of her immigration processes, I had to leave Kim two months after the wedding unfortunately.
I went through a difficult period waiting for her while trying to finish the paperwork for her arrivals and other office affairs. Unfortunately, with Covid we had to wait longer than expected.
As they say “When the storm is over, the breeze always comes.” Kim was able to come to Portland, Oregon at the end of June 2021. I was extremely happy for her arrival. Kim and I started to make our dreams come true by building a happy family. We finally have an opportunity to be with each other after waiting for many years.
But that happy moment lasted only two months. In 2021 September 11, Kim was pregnant with our baby, unfortunately it was an only week old ectopic pregnancy. We had to cut one of her fallopian tubes where the embryo was formed. We had to let our hope go because I couldn’t risk Kim’s life and her well being. It was extremely dangerous for her.
All of our hopes were destroyed. I couldn’t show any of my emotions to Kim because I needed to be strong for her, but there is a storm inside my heart. September 11 was a bad day for us that I will always remember.
After the first ectopic pregnancy, it took months for Kim to heal and get back to normal. Both of us stay strong for each other in these gloomy days because we still have hope.
In October 2022, I found out that Kim was pregnant for the second time. We were so happy but the happiness didn’t last long again. We went to the doctor for the check up but the ultrasound showed that this is once again an Ectopic pregnancy. All of the past trauma that we have from 2021 has come back into life again. This time we had the last fallopian tube that occurred. The ectopic pregnancy has to be cut for Kim’s safety and well being. Both of her tubes were gone and Kim couldn’t get pregnant naturally anymore. I couldn’t say anything, I just couldn’t help but cry in front of the doctor and Kim silently. Kim had to take off her second tube on September 14, 2022. It was just a year after she had her first tube cut off. I blamed the universe for not giving us a chance, after so many years of waiting for us to be together and two ectopic pregnancies.

It broke my heart when Kim blamed herself and said “ I can’t give you a child, I am sorry.” I wiped away Kim’s tears and told her it was never her fault. I was broken inside but I encouraged her. I still have a glimpse of hope inside me.
The doctors have given us an option of IVF. This is the glimpse of hope that we have to build a beautiful family. Maybe the universe is not always bad. We have always put our faith into God and I believe that he will bless us with a child. Problems and struggles always come into life but we also believe that good things come also and it takes time. We believe that there will be people that will help us for IVF fees that we cannot afford.The IVF will cost $30353.62 without the medication. The bills for the ectopic pregnancy surgery was already a huge load on our shoulders for us. Please help us make our dream and our glimpse of hope come true. Thank you so much.
With hope, Khai & Kim